I have been feeling a little discouraged lately too. I don't understand why everyone feels the need to tell me how awful things are going to be after the baby comes. I realize I have no idea how it will be to bring home a new baby but I am trying to keep an open mind. So having people tell me how much things will suck is kind of frustrating. I feel like I can't give any ideas or opinions without someone chiming in and telling me how wrong I am and that I need to give up on everything I'm thinking. I know everyone says that having a baby is the hardest thing they've ever done but that doesn't mean that I can't do it. I guess I just wish that someone would say, "yes, it is going to be very hard, but you'll adjust and be just fine". I don't know. I guess I get it that people are trying to prepare me but I just wish they could be more encouraging with their opinions.
Anyway, I've attached my most recent belly picture. I took this one tonight so, although it says 18 weeks, it's technically 18 weeks 4 days. As you can see the belly is growing quite a bit. When I look at the picture I think I look pregnant but when I look in the mirror, especially without clothes on, I feel like I look fat. My belly just still feels like it has a lot of jiggle to it. I'm looking forward to it rounding out. I'm up 10 pounds total and feel pretty okay with that. I'm almost half way so I guess that is pretty good so far. I've been pretty good about exercising. I've been walking after work and have gone to a couple of yoga classes. I'd like to try to make yoga more regular.
I have started lubing up the belly with high hopes of keeping the stretch marks at bay. I know, I know, good luck. I know that if you are predisposed to stretch marks there isn't much you can do to prevent them and I already have stretch marks on my boobs and hips leftover from puberty. But, I can't just sit back and do nothing. I got some Mama Mio Tummy Rub oil and I love it. It smells so good and makes my skin feel so soft and it really helps with the itchiness. I've been rubbing it on at night before bed. We'll see what happens but I feel better for trying something.
6 comments:
Girl! People are just blowing hot air! I don't know why people feel the need to "inform" mothers-to-be of any unpleasantness. Totally not necessary, right? Yes, it will be hard, but only because it's new. No change is EASY. Look at how you adjusted to your job. That was new but isn't it worth it? You WILL be fine...more than fine! Just because it may be hard on them doesn't mean it's going to be hard for you! Yes, people should learn to keep the negativity to themselves especially at such a happy time. Don't let it discourage you anymore because this is YOUR time.
XOXOXOX
Kim
People need to shut their yappers. Motherhood is the hardest and best thing EVER. Yes, it's tough, but it's like any other change in life. First 2 months are a bit of a blur, but that's why you take pics! It'll be fine. And you don't look fat, geez. Felt any kicking yet? If not, it's coming and that will blow your mind! Wait until it looks like "alien" and Joe sees your entire belly lurch. AMAZING! Can't wait to see what it is, I'm vibing girl, so we will see! Love you and keep baking that baby good!
Kristen
Thanks Kim and Kristen. I know people are just trying to prepare me but the gloom and doom is a little much.
Kristen, I have begun to feel movement. Some "tickling", some "bubbles popping", and some actual "thumps". It is very cool! Being that it normally happens right after lunch I just sit at my desk smiling like an idiot. It's a great feeling.
Tricia,
You need to ignore the naysayers! Remember I posted a blog on this exact topic when I was pregnant? Having my babies was the best thing that EVER happened to me and I would relive every moment again. I NEVER in my life felt so happy or at peace like I did when I was home with my babies. I felt contented and wonderful. I loved getting up at night. I felt like the baby and I had a special secret time. I would catch up on all the late night TV (like SATC re-runs). And the wonderful part with the first baby was, if she was up all night, we lounged in bed all day! I was never expected to do anything.
Yes, you will feel tired but you will feel wonderful too. I remember looking into Mia's little face and realizing that I got to rediscover the world because I could do it through her. I saw all the things I could teach her and show her. Every day is a blessing. You are going to be the greatest mom and I will go to bat against anyone who could ever think otherwise!
Love you and you look beautiful!
Very good comments to the blog---they couldn't have said it any better. I know what you are talking about with the nightime feedins when you house is quiet. I had that with Pierce and with Nate and a little with Peyton. You talk to the babies and tell them stories and put their head next to your and just kiss it--the best feeling in the world. and yes I also did that with my own children--Parenthood is the hardest job you will ever have but the rewards are also greater than anything you will ever know. A kiss and hug from a child or I love you mommy are the best words you will ever hear. Will you need to have more patience than you ever thought you would have--yes, will your shirts smell like throw up and it won't even bother you--yes--will your shirts have breast milk leakage- yes- will you be sleep deprived yes- but what a joy to hold that babyin your arms.....you will do just fine and yes you will hear everybodies horror stories about the baby and labor and delivery..so be prepared for that one....mom
After everything you've been through, let me know who those stupid people are and I'll have at them. YOU ARE GOING TO DO FINE. In your short time (yes 30 years is a short time) you've had a lot thrown your way and you've handled it all.
Love you, Aunt Leanne
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