Monday, July 27, 2009

Honesty

Being honest and writing blogs isn't always the funnest task. I try to always be very honest here and that sometimes means that I have to leave things off the blog. As much as I pour my heart out onto a computer screen, I always have to remember that there are people out there who will probably read what I'm saying. This leads to some serious dilemmas in my head.

Blogging is by far the easiest way for me to "say" what's on my mind. I don't have anyone talking back to me and I don't have to see people's facial expressions or be a good listener. I can just type and get it all out and feel better that all that "stuff" that's inside my head is out and no longer driving me insane. And I do feel insane sometimes saying the things that I say. Telling you all some very personal things that, if I had to look you in the eye, I'd most likely never say.

But days like today when I have so much drama jamming up my brain and I need so badly to write it out and get it out of my head, I stop and think about the consequences. What my words could mean to someone reading them. How my inner turmoil could just come off as complete bitchiness to someone who doesn't get it. A lot of times I don't write it. I just hang on to the chaos and deal with it. I'm doing that now and it's tearing up my insides. I'm a moody mess right now. I, of course, want to down a ton of comfort food to mask my feelings and make me feel better but I can't. I won't.

I have no idea how to say what I need to say. I have no idea how to make people understand me without hurting them at the same time. I have no idea how to make people see that I'm not some selfish, heartless bitch who only has time for herself. I'm not a bad person but sometimes I have to protect MY heart. I have to watch out for ME. If that means keeping to myself then that's the way it has to be.

Sometimes I just feel so alone with my thoughts and my feelings. I know that no matter what I say people just aren't going to understand. They're not going to sympathize with my situation. They can't. They just see me withdrawing into myself and think that it's because I only care about me. I thought I'd gotten so good at pretending. I'd "fight the tears with pretty smiles and lies about the times" (Flyleaf). I guess I'm not as good at pretending as I thought. Without me even realizing, I'd been found out. Even through the smiles and attempts to be social and stories about all my new adventures, people still saw my effort to withdraw and protect my heart. Actually, that's not what they saw. They saw selfish and stubborn. They just see the attitudes that affect them. They don't take the time to find out what's really going on.

I just wish people could see how much I do care. I DO CARE. I want the best for everyone I love. I honestly, honestly do. I want the people I love to have happiness every day of their lives. "My words they don't come out right, but I'm trying to say I'm happy for you" (Blue October). If protecting my heart from things that make me so sad means that I'm selfish, then I guess I am. I can't apologize for wanting to protect me. I can't just leave my heart open and have it broken time after time after time. I can't. And I know it's not somebody's fault when I start to feel down. It's all me. It's me feeling sorry for myself. Feeling sorry for things I can't do anything about. But I wish that people would understand that and stop seeing me as just selfish. Understand that this life is hard and I don't know how to deal with it. I'm just learning as I go and doing the best that I can.

I know this blog probably doesn't make any sense but I had to get some of this drama out of my head. I can't hold onto these things that wear me down. It's too exhausting and I'm already so tired.

Friday, July 24, 2009

Friday morning bitch fest

I feel like shit today. Not physically, but emotionally. It's one of those days where nothing is/feels right. One of those days where it feels like I just can't win. Keep in mind that I am terribly shallow and not dealing with any REAL issues today, just a bunch of little things that have combined to put me in a really bad mood.

Outwardly, I feel like I'm a big sloppy mess today. I have flakes in my hair from my hair gel, my nail polish is chipped, my eyeliner is all wonky, I have three honking zits on my chin, my tag won't stay tucked in my shirt, and I'm only down .2 pounds this morning. BLAH! I just don't feel pretty or good about myself and that makes me feel unhappy. I really just want to stay home in my pajamas and do nothing all day. I don't want to be at work where I have to smile and be charming and polite to people that I'd really like to give the finger to.

I'm so sick of feeling like I work my ass off at the gym and eat salads constantly and then don't lose weight fast enough. I know this shit takes time but DAMN! At least let me lose a half a pound! .2 pounds is a slap in the face! At this pace, it's going to take a year to lose the 18.2 pounds I have left to lose. I don't want to give up on my diet. I do actually feel better eating this way. My sugar cravings are gone and I like the food that I'm eating. I also really enjoy the feeling of accomplishment I get after working out. It makes me feel a million times better than eating a huge dinner or sitting on the couch watching TV. But the weight loss is the drug. That's the fix I need. I need to see the numbers on the scale going down every week. I need it! I need it so I don't get discouraged.

Maybe if my nail polish was perfect today or if my hair didn't look like I was battling a serious case of dandruff. Maybe if I wasn't breaking out like a hormonal teenager. Maybe if all those things weren't pissing me off this morning I wouldn't feel so bad about the weight loss. Or, maybe because of the weight loss those things are exaggerated today. Either way, it has put me in a bad mood. I need coffee and gossip stat to pull me out of this funk. On my way to visit Perez. Let's hope it helps.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Sitting still

Whew! What a week! I feel like I've really been neglecting the blog lately. I'm sorry for that. I just have so much going on right now that getting to the computer at night doesn't come easily. For lack of actual inspiration, this will probably be another, "what's been going on" blog. Hopefully I'll have something dazzling to say at some point.

I've officially been given the go-ahead to divulge info about the party I'm planning. My sister Becky is tying the knot. They have about a quatrillion friends so lack of money and lack of time to plan are preventing her from having the standard wedding right now but she and Will are going to the courthouse to make it official. Grown ups have to make grown up decisions some times. But, I didn't feel like it would be right to NOT celebrate something this monumental so I am planning a little dinner party/reception for them. I can't go into too many details here on the blog because she is a loyal follower but I promise I will post all the details and pictures once it's done. And you'd better believe that this party will be fabulous. Trust.

I had a very monumental week in weight loss. I am now down a total of 11 pounds and into a whole new weight loss bracket. And the new bracket is one that I haven't seen for a LONG time. We're talking since I was 19-ish. I am super proud of myself. I am very much looking forward to shopping for new clothes once I hit my goal. This week, however, I will be moving on to a new phase in my 5k training. I repeated week two last week since I didn't think I was ready to move on but now it's time to move on to week 3 training which scares the crap out of me. It's 90 seconds of jogging, 90 seconds of walking, 3 MINUTES of jogging, 3 minutes of walking, repeated twice. That three minutes of running really scares me. The 90 seconds I'm doing now is tough. I know that I have to push myself in order to make progress but it's so far out of what I'm used to doing. I know that's a good thing, but still.

Another scary task is graduate school. I am so scared out of my mind. I really don't know if I'm ready. I feel like I just decided to start thinking about going back to already applying and starting to register for classes. It feels like it is all happening so fast. I kind of want to hold off until the spring semester so I can fully wrap my mind around what I'm about to get into. At the same time I feel like waiting may just be another excuse for why I can't do it. And if I don't do it now than I may never do it. Aaaagggghhh.... decisions, decisions. It's too much to think about right now.

We got some disappointing/annoying news this week. We've been waiting since the end of March for some kind of response from our doctor about what may have gone wrong with our IVF cycle. We knew not to expect a letter right away but when we hit the three month mark we started calling to find out if they were ever going to let us know what happened. So after several phone calls from both me and Joe we finally got a letter in the mail. I don't know what I was expecting but it was certainly more than we got. Basically, my cycle was perfect, there were no problems and they would follow the exact same protocol if we decided to try IVF with them again. Seriously?! That's it?! There has to be SOMETHING wrong! You can't keep saying that we're perfect and that we'll eventually get pregnant if we keep trying! NO! Five and a half years, a miscarriage and a chemical pregnancy have to mean SOMETHING is wrong. So, even though we love our doctor and love his nurses to death, Joe and I have decided that when we're ready to think about this again that we're going to seek a second opinion. I think it's time to start some genetic testing, maybe biopsy my uterus, just really look into anything and everything that could be preventing us from getting and staying pregnant.

Moving on...

We did have a really nice weekend. My dad and Joe re-screened our back porch this weekend. Our screen was old and ripped and a mess and now it looks awesome. While the boys were working my mom and I planted some inpatients in a couple of pots to put on my back porch. And we, of course, got our swimming time in today too. Oh, and I made a new crustless quiche this evening, turkey sausage and mushrooms. I'll let you know how it turned out. I also figured out how to make a low-carb mojito AND low carb tortilla chips. I'm on a roll baby! I'm working the low carb thing out!

Anyway, that's all for now. I hope you all have a great week. I'll keep you posted on how my new week of training goes!

Monday, July 13, 2009

Here, there, and everywhere

I feel like I haven't blogged in so long and that there is so much I haven't told all of you but also feel like none of it is really blog worthy. I guess if you don't mind, I'll give you a little rundown of what has been happening. Sorry if it's boring. Life doesn't seem boring right now, it actually seems pretty busy but it may not seem so interesting "on paper".

So the 5k training is going well. I'm on my third week of training but have decided to repeat week two because it is still pretty tough for me. I'm getting better but I don't want to push it. I haven't missed a day of training yet and I'm very, very proud of myself. I've also added a Pilates class to my training. I am very lucky to have a free gym at work that offers really good classes so every Thursday at lunch time I go over to the gym for Pilates. I've never done Pilates before and HOLY CRAP is that shit tough! I have a long way to go! My abs were on protest last week. I could hardly do most of the moves. But, as time goes on, I hope to increase my strength. I do want to start adding in some arm toning exercises too but just haven't made it to that step yet. Slowly but surely.

Speaking of slowly... the weight loss has been slow going. I've been doing so well on my diet. I haven't slipped up once. The sugar and comfort food cravings are getting fewer and farther between. I did start adding a half a piece of low-carb, high fiber toast with my breakfast in the morning. I was having some issues in the bathroom and needed some fiber to... er, move things along. I'm sure you'll be glad to know that it seems to be working. I've been at this for a month now and have lost 8 pounds. I know 2 pounds a week is fantastic and I should be really happy but I just want it gone NOW. I feel like it's going to take FOREVER to rid of the other 22 pounds. I know that slow weight loss is the way to go and that if I stick with it it'll happen but I'm ready for results... and shopping for new clothes!

I have also decided that it is time for me to go back to school. Eeeeek! It is so scary to even write the words! But, in this economy, I feel like I need to do whatever I can to be competitive in the job world. I feel pretty secure in my job at the moment but the government can pull funding for the space program at any moment and I'd be out on my ass. It was a little difficult trying to decide what to pursue a Master's in. I knew I wanted something that was going to be in-demand in the future. I ruled out the medical field right away because I just don't have the guts for it. So I decided on computers. Computer Information Systems actually. I'll be learning about programming software and securing networks and building computer systems from the ground up. It is so far out of my comfort zone that it makes me very nervous. But, I'm smart and know that I'm capable of learning. My company offers tuition reimbursement so I feel like I would be really dumb not to take advantage of it.

In more fun news, last week we met up with Joe's sister, her husband, Steve, and my two nieces for dinner. They were here on vacation and we got to see them for a little while. They love the Keys even more than me and Joe do and we've decided we're going to take a vacation to Key West with them for Joe's 31st birthday in December. It's also Steve's birthday so we're going to make it one big birthday extravaganza. We've decided to go ultra cheesy and get t-shirts made with Joe and Steve's pictures on them and we're going to wear them to the bars. Oh yes, it is going to be epic. If you've never been to Key West you can't truly appreciate the fun that cheesiness brings. It is a whole other world down there. Cheesiness rules almost as hard as the margaritas. We're really excited.

What else... Oh, there is something in the works that I'm not sure I can fully discuss yet but, once I'm given permission, you can be sure I'll share it here. It has to do with a party... you know how much I love to plan! Let's just say I'm in hard core planning mode at the moment. Is that enough suspense for you?

I think that's all for now. Besides the stuff I wrote about, we've just been hanging around enjoying the summer and the pool. I know I say it all the time but I love the summer... and I love my pool. I don't care how hot it gets, as long as I can jump in the pool I'm happy. Oh, also, big developments coming in home renovation. Our backyard makeover has started slowly creeping forward. Stay tuned for details in the coming weeks.

Hope you all have a great week! Holy crap- totally forgot I have a quiche in the oven. Oops!

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Start your day off right

They say breakfast is the most important meal of the day. That by eating it, you eat fewer calories throughout the rest of the day. Whether or not that's true, I don't know. But, I've always been a big fan of breakfast. I've always taken the time, even on rushed mornings, to eat a little something. Now that we're low-carb, breakfast is a challenge. I can't just throw some waffles in the toaster and eat them in the car. But I have solved that problem and want to share with all of you a delicious, easy and satisfying recipe.

I've been making crustless quiches on Sunday evenings. I use an 8x8 pan and, when it's done, slice the quiche into 9 squares. That's enough for Joe and I to have breakfast for the whole week. Just pop a square into the microwave for 40 seconds and you've got a hot meal that keeps you satisfied and provides you with protein and vegetables.

This recipe can be varied to fit your taste so I'll give you the base recipe and some suggestions for "fillings" that we like. This isn't a low calorie/low fat quiche, but low carb for sure. You can also make this recipe with a crust but, for me, crustless is the way to go.

Quiche:

6 large eggs
1.5 cups heavy cream
1.5 cups shredded cheddar
1 cup chopped red and green peppers
1 cup cubed ham (cooked)
salt and pepper

Spray an 8x8 baking dish with Pam. Layer in ham, peppers, and cheese. Beat together eggs, cream, salt and pepper. Pour over layers in pan. Bake at 375 for 35-45 minutes.

If you want a crust, use a thawed deep dish pie crust and follow all the other instructions the same.

Now for the fillings. I've done this quiche several ways. The way above, with the ham, is so far my favorite. You can pretty much use any meat and vegetable combo you like. You can also switch out the cheese for whatever cheese you like. I just prefer cheddar. I've made this quiche with broccoli and cheese, and spinach and bacon. Both were really good. Some other suggestions are sausage or shredded chicken, mushrooms, asparagus, zucchini. I'm sure you can think of many more.

Definitely give it a shot. It's a very easy way to get a hot breakfast and also to get some veggies in your diet. Enjoy!

Oh, and if you come up with a good combo let me know, I'd love to try it.

Monday, July 6, 2009

By request

I’ve been asked to post my 5k training schedule as some of you are interested. I do each workout three times a week.

Week 1
Brisk five-minute warm up walk. Then alternate 60 seconds of jogging and 90 seconds of walking for a total of 20 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Week 2
Brisk five-minute warm up walk. Then alternate 90 seconds of jogging and two minutes of walking for a total of 20 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Week 3
Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then two repetitions of the following: Jog 90 seconds, walk 90 seconds, jog 3 minutes, walk 3 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Week 4
Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog 3 minutes, walk 90 seconds, jog 5 minutes, walk 2.5 minutes, jog 3 minutes, walk 90 seconds, jog 5 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Week 5
Work out one: Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog 5 minutes, walk 3 minutes, jog 5 minutes, walk 3 minutes, jog 5 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Work out two: Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog 8 minutes, walk 5 minutes, jog 8 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Work out three: Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog 20 minutes with no walking. Five minute cool down.

Week 6
Work out one: Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog 5 minutes, walk 3 minutes, jog 8 minutes, walk 3 minutes, jog 5 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Work out two: Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog 10 minutes, walk 3 minutes, jog 10 minutes. Five minute cool down.

Work out three: Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog for 25 minutes with no walking. Five minute cool down.

Week 7
Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog for 25 minutes with no walking. Five minute cool down.

Week 8
Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog for 28 minutes with no walking. Five minute cool down.

Week 9
Brisk five-minute warm up walk, then jog for 30 minutes with no walking. Five minute cool down.

Some of the later weeks seem a little scary but hopefully by the time I get to them they won't be so scary anymore.

Sunday, July 5, 2009

Tricia says RELAX

Here it is again... The end of another weekend. They sure do go fast don't they? This one was even a long weekend! Even though it seems too short, it was still good.

I had Friday off from work in honor of the Fourth of July. It was a great, really relaxing day. I kept to my 5k training schedule and ran on the treadmill at home. I really enjoyed working out in the privacy of my home. I was able to sing and dance along with the music... Mostly during the cool down but it was still fun. Becky brought Pierce over and we swam and had lunch and read magazines on the porch. It was really nice.

Friday night Joe and I took a trip to Target and went out to dinner. Going out to eat while dieting is tough. The restaurant we went to had a "healthy" menu that listed the calories and fat and carbs in the dishes but I was still on my i-phone trying to find the nutrition info on the rest of the menu items. Thank goodness for technology! After a little bit of stress we were able to pick dinners and still stick to our diets. We did agree that we wouldn't be going out to dinner anymore without lots of advanced planning.

Saturday was our work day. We had to get the house clean and do all of our chores so that we could play today. But yesterday wasn't all work. We went to a friend's house for a 4th of July BBQ. We had a ton of fun. And there were lots of options on the buffet so that we were able to make good choices. There were also two huge platters of cupcakes that were very tempting but I didn't indulge. You are all aware of my love of cupcakes so you know how tough it was! Our friend's neighbors are all very into fireworks so we had quite a show from his front yard.

Today was our relax day. We don't work on Sundays, only fun and relaxing. We went to my mom's for breakfast to hang out with Peyton, who spent the weekend with my mom. After that we had to make a very quick trip to The Wal-Mart to exchange some picture frames, then we headed back here to get in the pool. That's where we parked it for the rest of the afternoon. Now we just finished up dinner and got a bunch of food prepped for the week so we're on the wind down for the rest of the night.

I'm looking forward to moving on to the next round of 5k training this week. It's a little intimidating but I feel confident that I can do it! I hope you all have a great week!